Can Eros End?

C.S. Lewis talks a lot about Eros love, and most of the characteristics are lovely and heart warming. He talks about how when you are in love you are obsessed with that person, not even so much their personality or the way they make you feel, but simply their being. The first few pages where everything seemed wonderful my questions had to do with a time period. Does it take a while for Eros love to form? Can it be instant? Does it grow deeper over time? I feel like maybe Lewis would say that it can happen instantly since he talks about Eros almost like an aura about someone that one is attracted to more than then to their characteristics.
This led me to wonder about divorce and about people who have been in love more than once. Would Lewis argue that a divorced couple never really experienced true Eros? Or would he be ok with the idea of loving someone with Eros more than once? Lewis says that falling out of Eros is a form of dis-redemption. “Eros is driven to promise what Eros of himself cannot perform”. He argues that Eros needs to be ruled and worked on. I agree with what Lewis says here, mainly because I see it in the marriages around me, both those that work and those that don’t. Secondly, because it is biblical—Eros relationships take humility and grace. Eventually people pick up their ‘selves’ again realizing that the old self “be not so dead as he pretended” (pg.114). So Lewis says that Eros love is not perfect, in fact it is far from it. So is it possible? He answers “these lapses will not destroy a marriage between two ‘decent and sensible’ people” (pg.114). So there is hope! Eros makes the vows and it is our job to keep them!